The thing about having a team located in several different countries on two continents is that it's impossible to gather all of us in one place at one time. But that certainly doesn't keep us from celebrating each other from afar.
And today is Lois' birthday, a date that always makes me reflect on how grateful I am for the privilege to work and adventure alongside this amazing woman. If I tried to share everything I've learned, whether related to life (more nuanced and beautiful than we realize), love (marrying my husband was highly recommended), or fashion (a black outfit with statement earrings will never let you down), it wouldn't be a short list. But in honor of our six years of friendship, here are six things Lois has taught me (which I'm still in various stages of learning):
01. TAKE NOTES
Write down ideas. Remember important anniversaries. Make lists. (And if you do something that wasn't on your list, write it down so you get the satisfaction of crossing it off.)
02. SAY YES TO SECONDS
Make time for second cups of coffee, second chances, second glasses of wine and second helpings of grace—whether for the good of a relationship or the good of your own soul.
03. USE YOUR WORDS
Share the stories that need to be told. Ask questions. Speak up for the rights of others. Affirm growth when you see it. Good words will save the world.
04. KEEP LEARNING
There are always opportunities to grow, more books to read, ideas to discuss, new places to explore. We know only in part. Find the mavens and connectors and innovators and pay attention to how they see the world.
05. ASSUME THE BEST
In work and relationships and everything in between, most people are showing up as best they can. Assume love on their part before jumping to conclusions or judgment. Life is messy. Give others room to try and fail and succeed, and cheer them on along the way.
06. CELEBRATE GENEROUSLY
Make others feel seen and loved. Leave fresh flowers in the guest room. Meet for spontaneous drinks to celebrate (tiny and momentous) victories. Set the table with the fancy dishes just because. You can always find a reason to throw a party.